How to help your man to dress well?<

We too often hear women say “my boyfriend always dresses the same way”, “my man is badly dressed” or “my man doesn't know how to dress”. When asking around, the phrase that comes up most often is “I don't like my boyfriend's style”. And that, we find it unfortunate.

In fact, we have noticed that you encounter two obstacles when you try to makeover your darling:

You don't know where to start the makeover; You have erroneous certainties about men's fashion (very different from women's fashion). Dressing up your man is a delicate task, in which you have to commit a little time and above all a lot of 'Warning. Be sure that by following these tips, you will initiate a lasting change in your man, from which you will both come out stronger.

Here are the tips to help you in this quest!

1 – DIALOGUE TO MAKEOVER YOUR MAN

First of all, it is a matter of making a quick "inventory" of the situation. You should adapt your approach depending on your man's level of interest in his own look. Also, keep in mind that you will touch on one of your spouse's most sensitive points: physical appearance. Any approach that is too fast and/or brutal would therefore be unwelcome!

So how do you dress up your man without risking coming across as a selfish woman who wants an “ideal” man?

START A REAL DIALOGUE!

You must talk about it with him and make sure to suggest that he take a motivating path that touches his imagination, inviting him to see himself differently, more beautiful and elegant. We can for example use a consensual sentence, with accessible ideas, which will certainly make him want to test new clothes:

“I think some nice, well-cut raw jeans and a nice white t-shirt would really show you off. “

"A navy blue suit with a white shirt would look really good on you."

Above all, do not show him photos of actors or celebrities with ultra-elaborate outfits and sports professional biceps. You risk that he wrongly compares himself to these pseudo-models and becomes demotivated. However, nothing prevents to show him some photos of looks that could suit him. You'll find plenty of them on Verygoodlord's Pinterest account.

MANAGE THIS PROBLEM WITH EMPATHY.

Of course, the dialogue does not stop at the simple fact of motivating your companion to begin a clothing transformation. Do not hesitate to discuss with him throughout the weeks by asking his opinion and taking into account his feelings about this approach or during your shopping days together. This requires a certain finesse between human psychology and the pleasure of sharing! It is particularly necessary to encourage him and notice his efforts to create and maintain his motivation.

So it's all about showing empathy. Put yourself in his shoes and learn to read his:

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Finally, it's about communicating with your darling to deconstruct fears about changing his style and choosing clothes he was not used to wearing. Indeed, as a man being interested in fashion and style is not always natural.

Moreover, in case of total refusal of your spouse to try the experiment, do not rush him and accept his decision. You can't build lasting change with an uncomfortable person. Wait a few months, and re-try the experience little by little, gently.

As for the dress makeover itself, you will have to judge the level of style of your darling. But this appreciation requires acquiring the basics of masculine elegance. Which brings us to the second point.

2 – DECONSTRUCT YOUR CERTAINTIES: UNDERSTAND CLOTHING LIKE A MAN

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Ladies, you usually have a good sense of “dressing well”. Fits, color combinations and choosing the 'right' pieces come quite naturally to you when it comes to yourself. Conversely, this sense is not innate for men and even for you when it comes to men's fashion. Indeed, masculine elegance follows rules that you must know, and if no one has taught it before, your man cannot know them.

To hope that your better half dresses better, you have to look at men's fashion by putting yourself in the shoes of a man of taste: bye bye trends, clothes that are too original and bling bling accessories. If we assume that you are giving your man a makeover and that he knows nothing about it (which is often the case), you will have to start by buying the basics.

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In addition, the question of the budget will arise: depending on whether you are both students or in professional life, the approach will be different. But rest assured, even with little money you can work miracles. I invite you to read my article on how to dress for cheap!

PURCHASING BASIC CLOTHING

The basics are sober pieces, well cut and made from natural materials (most often cotton, wool and leather). They are the base of your man's wardrobe because they are worn in many outfits.

When you revamp your man, you have to focus on the versatility of the clothes he will buy. It's a really different approach to “feminine” shopping, which is often focused on favorite pieces. Yes ladies, you are more talented than us to wear this amazing scoop sweater in green yak hair decorated with sequins! Keep it simple with your man and focus on the parts that "work" for sure.

Always assume that your darling should be able to wear the same item of clothing in several different outfits. Example in support with this costume. It can be worn in:

a casual outfit made up of a striped t-shirt and a pair of white sneakers; a dressier outfit made up of a white shirt, a navy suit and a pair of JM Weston loafers.

And here are other styles that look great on a man. All these looks were found on the Mr Porter site, which allows you to see all the products worn in an often very tasteful look.

Eventually, you will be able to consider more original pieces, which are distinguished by style or color, they are called strong pieces. A patterned shirt, an overcoat worn with sneakers, a leather jacket or even a patterned waistcoat.

LET IT FLY WITH ITS OWN WINGS

Once he has a good knowledge base, and he has found the desire to dress well, then he can find “strong” pieces and enhance his looks.

Nevertheless, we advise you not to be alongside your spouse for the purchase of these original pieces. Why ? The idea behind her man's makeover is not to transform him from A to Z as you see fit. You may have already read this Chinese proverb: “If you give a man a fish, he will eat for a day, if you teach him to fish, he will eat forever”. It is exactly this philosophy that you must adopt: invite your man to take an interest in clothes, motivate him to dress better, teach him the basics and then let him have his way. In this way, you will be surprised at the evolution he will make in autonomy and your darling will gain more self-confidence.

In addition, it is easier to makeover your man by sticking only to the purchase of basics because there is little risk of error and these are pieces that have a reasonable cost.

THEN GO FURTHER.

Dressing up with basics doesn't mean that your spouse has to stick to tasteless outfits: a well-chosen basic enhances the style and nothing prevents the purchase of a more daring piece afterwards. Typically a nice jacket like a field jacket, vintage clothing, even nice accessories like jewelry or a nice watch will add just the right amount of character to your man's style.

It is also necessary to discuss with him the style he prefers. Depending on their social background, physical characteristics, culture and influences, they will be more or less comfortable with different styles (casual-chic, adventurer, roots, streetwear, etc.). It's up to you to see in his company what suits him the most and how to exploit his tastes.

” MY BOYFRIEND'S STYLE DOESN'T MATCH ME! “

Be careful, when I say “the style”, I'm not talking about an absence of style, I'm talking about a real built and asserted style. A voluntary and desired style.

In this case, the style of dress should not be subject to dispute or tension in the couple, because if this is important to you, you should also have chosen your companion for his appearance. Know that if your man's style does not suit you, and it is really impossible for you to ignore it, it may be time to consider a romantic solution to the relationship!

You will easily understand that knowing about fashion is not enough. Changing your man's clothing style is a real collective exercise: you will both be in a process of personal development. Always keep in mind that the end goal is to initiate the style change and encourage your man to become self-sufficient. Hence the importance of discussion and encouragement.

Have fun with him and know that this approach will consolidate your couple! Not only will your man be more attractive to you, but you will see him change his personality for the better.