14 questions from Carrie Bradshaw that are still relevant<

OpinionTwenty years later, the questions raised by Carrie Bradshaw still have as much impact.

By Alexandre Marin

More than just a cult series of the 1990s, Sex and the City was a real revolution in the television world. It is with pleasure that we were able to follow the hilarious adventures of the four main characters, Carrie, Samantha, Miranda and Charlotte, for six seasons and two films. While the reboot And Just Like That… will soon see the light of day, a look back at 14 life lessons signed by the New York journalist that it is good to follow (still) in 2021.

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"How many of us get off on people they're ashamed to introduce to their friends?"

Who has never experienced this unpleasant situation? Admittedly, like Carrie, if the person we are "dating" does not introduce us to their friends on the street, it can be very upsetting. What could be the reason? Let's get rid of not being cute enough. Beauty is so subjective (at least that's said). Maybe the person is simply afraid of the judgment of his relatives for such and such a reason? Or on the contrary, that she wants to keep her other half just for herself, like a daily breath of fresh air? It's true, such a situation does not necessarily mean that she is ashamed of you, quite the contrary. Just that it's not the right time (well, let's hope).

“In a city where expectations are high, is it time to settle for what you can get?”

In this episode, Carrie is sad to learn that Mr. Big never wants to get married again. After two failed unions, that's understandable. But the real question today would be: can we really be satisfied with what we have? Anyone living in a big city in 2021 knows that temptation lurks around every corner, especially in the area of ​​social networks and dating apps that we use as veritable sex supermarkets. A tiny detail tickles us during a "date"? Too long a nose, imperfect diction, too extreme kindness… Neither one nor two, it's a NEXT. Despite the social and cultural evolution, this question raised by the New Yorker in 1998 retains its full meaning, and even more so 20 years later.

“How often (note: for making love) is normal?”

Well, okay, that's a question we've probably been asking ourselves since the dawn of time. But between friends, this is the kind of questioning that can lead to a three-hour debate. And the funniest thing is that we will probably never have the answer, it's so subjective.

“What are the rules of breaking up?”

To the question “How do I dump someone?”, I often come up against the same kind of answers: “either I ghost or I'm honest”. But are we really? It's so easy to say “this is not the time, I'm sorry. It's not you, it's me”. Typically, this so-called honesty looks more like cowardice. Perhaps we should take the example of Samantha who, after several years of relationship with Smith Jerrod, decides to end it with these few words: “I love you, but I love myself even more”.

“Are there still things to never say in a relationship?”

If so, run away!

"In a gravityless world where anything goes, what constitutes deception?"

If Carrie described the 1990s as “a world without gravity where everything is permitted”, I wonder what she concocts for us in the reboot And Just Like That… Because yes, twenty years later, romantic relationships have evolved: polyamory or free couples, for example, are becoming commonplace and spreading more and more. The most important thing is to know what you want and ESPECIALLY, what you don't want. Attention, ready-made but legitimate expression: communication is the key.

"In a city as cynical as New York, is it still possible to believe in love at first sight?"

In Paris too, we wonder (almost) every day…

"Can you change a man?"

I will only say one thing: good luck!

"When it comes to relationships, how do you know when enough is enough?"

It is true that even today, we sometimes accept things that we would never have imagined enduring in a relationship. Make concessions yes, but put aside your values ​​or your desires, surely not!

"Do we need 'drama' to make a relationship work?"

Carrie is about to meet the parents of Aidan, her boyfriend. She is surprised by this idyll which is going wonderfully, especially after the disastrous relationship she had with Big. It's true that you can quickly get bored when a relationship remains too simple. We have all heard this expression before: a couple that never argues is not normal. A little drama never hurts, especially when quickly mastered. And for a couple to work, you must not hesitate to say when something is wrong, even if it means upsetting the other.

"In a relationship, is it smarter to follow your heart or your head?"

In the end, shouldn't you just trust your instincts? Because in general, we feel from the beginning whether the relationship is healthy or harmful. One thing is certain, it is important not to follow only your heart or your head. It's probably the best way to find yourself with your cheeks dripping with tears at the bottom of your bed, listening to I Will Always Love You by Whitney Houston while devouring a Ben & Jerry's ice cream. Tested and deprecated.

“Can we really escape our past?”

Okay, that's a bit of a convoluted question, but it's understandable to ask. Although personally the answer is a big fat NO. And why do you want to escape from your past? It is precisely he who has shaped us as we are. Let's be proud of it!

"Can we really forgive if we can't forget?"

Should we rather ask ourselves: “Does time really mend everything?”. You have two hours.

“Denial: Friend... or foe?”

Living in denial can be one of the worst and best experiences in a relationship. Perfect example: what is the healthiest when you have doubts about the fidelity of your partner? Digging through your pockets guided by constant fear or living your life never caring about what might or might not happen? Do you have the answer.

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